The Connection Specialist:
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Julie Vogler

Dispelling Assumptions About Dismissive Avoidants

Jan 25 min read

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Dispelling Assumptions About Dismissive Avoidants

Avoidants need to feel accepted to even try changing...no one is motivated to change when they feel attacked.

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Dec 28, 202410 min read

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Escaping the Snow Globe Trap

Changing Generational Patterns Changing the Story for the Next Generation In the recently released movie Red One , there's a scene that...

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The Missing Face in the Album: Avoidant Attachment and Camera Shyness

Dec 16, 20247 min read

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The Missing Face in the Album: Avoidant Attachment and Camera Shyness

"My mom was relentless with that thing. Every moment, every event, that camera was in my face."

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What Makes Us Susceptible (Breadcrumbing Pt. 3)

Sep 10, 20249 min read

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What Makes Us Susceptible (Breadcrumbing Pt. 3)

Scarcity masked as abundance skews our calibration, priming us to normalize the bare minimum.

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Subsisting on Love Crumbs (Breadcrumbing Pt 1)

Sep 2, 20243 min read

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Subsisting on Love Crumbs (Breadcrumbing Pt 1)

Love starvation: when your partner gives you just enough love to keep you hooked...

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Aug 9, 20244 min read

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A Phrase Stronger than "I Love You"

Validation makes a person feel understood and accepted. "That makes sense" opens the door to loving deeper.

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Aug 7, 20245 min read

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Are You Motivated or Are You Inspired?

Motivation and Inspiration are often used interchangeably but they are very different energies.

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Aug 5, 20247 min read

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Try Softer

Have you ever destroyed something in your attempt to make it better? When you let go of your need for control, everything relaxes into place

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Jul 29, 20248 min read

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Hurt Versus Harm and Pandora's Box

Consequences of lying by omission is loss of trust which harms the relationship and destroys love.

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Carelessly Crossing Lines Cancels Connection

Jul 28, 20247 min read

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Carelessly Crossing Lines Cancels Connection

Ignorance doesn’t absolve you of responsibility. Be humble enough to accept that you inadvertently cause pain and problems. Be...

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Jul 25, 20245 min read

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Don't Spook the Ghost

Keeping the stakes small for the sake of holding onto what little you can get creates an aching void you become afraid to lose. Who is...

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Jul 9, 20246 min read

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Calm is Code for Functional Freeze

Unaware we are even numb, we operate...and even love...on autopilot.

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Jul 1, 20249 min read

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Every Man For Himself

My whole body went rigid. My lips tingled. I didn’t look over at my boyfriend. I think I forgot he was even there. I was all alone, trapped

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Jun 21, 202412 min read

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Long Distance Nice Guys

Distance can conceal a man's identity from his romantic partner when he is afraid of being fully known. When his dual reality collides, how

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Nov 2, 20234 min read

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Broken Glass

Attention seeking behavior is a child's way to seek connection when feeling invisible or in need of comfort. Choosing to ignore or...

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Sep 8, 20233 min read

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To Find a Father

A woman abandons herself in the attempt to provide a father for her children.

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Sep 8, 20233 min read

A New and Unexplored World

“Well, I think I’m too gentle to live among wolves. I brought you here today because it’s my 5 year anniversary from the day I chose death…”

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Aug 25, 20231 min read

My Inner Child’s Ashes

I laugh as I spin around in the middle of the street, my hands clasped with the woman in front of me. She smiles at me as ashes float around

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Aug 25, 20233 min read

Humble Hotel

Meeting my date's Mother Dearest at their ritzy sterile home.

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Aug 25, 20231 min read

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