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Trauma Bonds are NOT about Shared Pain

Romanticizing the idea of trauma bonds as connection through shared pain obscures the reality of what they really are: dysfunction and abuse

Relationships

Jan 203 min read

Dispelling Assumptions About Dismissive Avoidants

Avoidants need to feel accepted to even try changing...no one is motivated to change when they feel attacked.

Relationships

Jan 25 min read

From Strategy to Symptom: How Emotional Neglect Shapes Avoidant Attachment

How avoidant attachment style develops from childhood emotional neglect.

Jan 16 min read

Escaping the Snow Globe Trap

Changing Generational Patterns Changing the Story for the Next Generation In the recently released movie Red One , there's a scene that...

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Dec 28, 202410 min read

Chocolate Covered Peanut Clusters

Chocolate Covered Peanut Clusters has never been easier...dump everything in the crockpot and drop them onto paper.

Dec 17, 20241 min read

The Missing Face in the Album: Avoidant Attachment and Camera Shyness

"My mom was relentless with that thing. Every moment, every event, that camera was in my face."

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Dec 16, 20247 min read

Texas Cinnamon Butter

Just like Texas Roadhouse Ingredients 2 sticks (1 cup) butter, softened 1/4 cup honey 1 tsp salt 1/2 teaspoon vanilla extract...

Nov 14, 20241 min read

Chocolate Banana Bread

Nov 14, 20241 min read

Words are Memories that Dance on Butterfly Wings

Choosing Which Words to Hold and Release Have you ever had someone say something to you that lingered in your mind, replaying in...

Nov 10, 20243 min read

What Makes Us Susceptible (Breadcrumbing Pt. 3)

Scarcity masked as abundance skews our calibration, priming us to normalize the bare minimum.

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Sep 10, 20249 min read

My Descent into Starvation (Breadcrumbing Pt 2)

By accepting breadcrumbs, I had justified the doling out of love until it was just a drip, which was covert emotional abuse.

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Sep 3, 20247 min read

Subsisting on Love Crumbs (Breadcrumbing Pt 1)

Love starvation: when your partner gives you just enough love to keep you hooked...

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Sep 2, 20243 min read

The Secret Behind Love Languages

Do you know what really determines the way someone receives love? Explore with me how our love languages are formed, using my own as an exa

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Aug 19, 20248 min read

A Phrase Stronger than "I Love You"

Validation makes a person feel understood and accepted. "That makes sense" opens the door to loving deeper.

Relationships

Aug 9, 20244 min read

Are You Motivated or Are You Inspired?

Motivation and Inspiration are often used interchangeably but they are very different energies.

Relationships

Aug 7, 20245 min read

Try Softer

Have you ever destroyed something in your attempt to make it better? When you let go of your need for control, everything relaxes into place

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Aug 5, 20247 min read

Hurt Versus Harm and Pandora's Box

Consequences of lying by omission is loss of trust which harms the relationship and destroys love.

Relationships

Jul 29, 20248 min read

Carelessly Crossing Lines Cancels Connection

Ignorance doesn’t absolve you of responsibility. Be humble enough to accept that you inadvertently cause pain and problems. Be...

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Jul 28, 20247 min read

Don't Spook the Ghost

Keeping the stakes small for the sake of holding onto what little you can get creates an aching void you become afraid to lose. Who is...

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Jul 25, 20245 min read

Gut or Ghost

When you're angry, agitated, anxious, or afraid, how do you know if it's your intuition warning you or if the present situation is...

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Jul 25, 20244 min read